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So there’s this person that co habitates with me and helps with the raising of our three children and while not as effeciently helps with the running of the household.  Most days, I develope a scowl when he enters the same room or pulls in the driveway becasue although I love him, I know I am going to have to listen, discuss and ultimately make a decision or have something added to our already strained schedule.  I don’t need anything more to think about.  I don’t know where to file it all or how to keep track of everything going on in a week.  Some people have family support or modern conveniences such as a blackberry however we have each other and between work, kids, pets, bills, shopping, etc, it is overwhelming.  I feel I do not even know my partner and everything is always so negative.  When we do splurge and go out somewhere there is always a kid in tow to detract from the relaxation part of the excursion.  I love my family but I need me time as well as we need WE time.  Introducing, date night.  Once a week or at least every two weeks, arrange for a sitter, call upon family or worse case scenario they have to be home, take some time to yourselves.  Set the kids up with a movie downstairs, clear instructions on what not to do, snacks and stipulate they are not to come upstairs until movie is over.  You and your partner can watch a movie together, snuggle and talk or take a bath together.  Anything even a couple of hours.  I signed on to be a parent, a mom not a martyr and a slave and I find my life is sucked up by my children leaving me nothing. 
Also, delegate decisions.  I will request my partner complete a task and tell him the parameters and then I don’t want to hear anymore about it.  I will ask him for feedback on a new cabinet or carpet color, etc and then complete the project with no further discussion.  This helps relieve some of the stress of too many tasks.  Obviously there are things you will both need to confer on but it sure helps not having to keep up on everything going on around the house. 
My thoughts for this gorgeous sunny Thursday while I am holed up at work.  Until such time, I get to leave, get my kids, drop my son off at karate, head home to start dinner and head off to a manger’s meeting for my son’s hockey.  While it is the last place I want to be especially with my favorite tv program playing, I need the company of fellow moms and to get out of the house. 
have a great day and remember you count too…

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